Should I stay or should I go? Finding the best solution for you both.
The first thing you have to decide as a partner of someone with DID is: Do you want to remain being a partner of someone with DID? It sounds simple, but it is an incredibly difficult decision to make. There will always be one friend who tells you that you have chosen wrong, you will always have doubts, but it is important to remember that this is a choice you get to make over and over again. They have to live with DID because of their life experience. You don’t. You get to re-choose every day to live with this person, with their struggles, to either help them heal or choose to walk away and heal yourself in the hopes that things will work out better for you both in the long run. The only problem is, that the longer you stay, the more damage you will cause when you go – so keep collateral in mind. If you think you can’t handle it, go earlier rather than later and if you can, try to make sure they have the support of friends and family.